Create The Space

The thoughts and feelings come and go. It’s natural. One day we are full of energy, everything is on track and exciting. The next day everything goes down hill.

We are weak. Once negative emotions and thoughts take over, we struggle and get sucked into the rabbit hole. But, we are also strong because we have the power and intellect to go through and even to be much better than we were before.

But we need to work for it. We can’t rely on thoughts and feelings to be positive every day because it will never be, but we can plan for bad days. ‘The space.’

Magic happens in the space. The space doesn’t require us to travel – no car, no walk, no getting in line. Because it’s at our home. It can be a chair or a cushion on the corner of our room. When you are in the space, only good things happen. Our mind gets quiet. We start listening to birds outside or deeper to ourselves. We smell what’s around and we feel what’s touching our skin. In the peaceful space, anxiety disappears and there are only good thoughts that unfold and we feel alive. It’s the space where we create magic.

In the space, every minute is gold, priceless. It can’t be bought. It’s heaven in our head. Only good things happen here. We think about happy memories, daydreaming, and all the good things we forgot we have. It’s full of blessings.

The best part of the space is we don’t need to wait. It’s available anytime whenever we need it.

Do you have the space? What’s the space look like for you?


Making Peace With Yourself

Movie – Good Will Hunting

A good movie doesn’t age. I watched the movie ‘Good Will Hunting’ again and it is still good (as good as the first time). After the movie, I was paused for a while.

Good Will Hunting looks at the way a person can open their heart and connect with others in a real way; its something worthwhile to reflect on.

People change, its what makes us human. Caring from someone change’s us as much as it can change another. Overcoming fear or weakness, and being vulnerable can be powerful change events. When Will cried, it was the moment of change; his resistance to change melted and it was the start of something new. 

Ultimately, what we want is peace in life; peace with ourselves. When we have it, we don’t need to fight against our inner voice and intuition but go with the flow. Though we are not used to doing that because we learn to fit into society. But as we slowly unlearn all the things we know, we find new ground where we feel good and comfortable.

In our own ground, we accept ourselves fully. Acknowledge what bothers us instead of denying it, what we are afraid of losing, what’s blocking us to connect. As we make progress with this, we can finally love ourselves and others better. 

Where are you in your life? What’s challenging you? What are you unlearning about yourself? 


After Cross Country Trip 2017

After driving nearly 4500 mile in 2 weeks from ny to san francisco, here’s some thoughts during and after cross country trip. I like to ask questions to myself ‘what is life?’ and I guess whenever I traveled or meet people or read books, I always go back to my main question. What is life?

  1. Life is like road trip

Road trip, we make destinations and routes we want to take although it changes at times. From point A to B, sometimes there’s nothing to see but keep driving for 10 hours because we didn’t want to waste time in some places just for sleeping. Sometimes driving at midnight can be tiring but we kept pushing and driving. When we get to the next destination, we feel relieved that we arrived safely and being on schedule. Then, we feel good for a few days and be ready to drive to the next destination and have another a long drive.

I was thinking it was like life we have. We work hard to reach a goal. Not after too long we reached the goal, we create another goal to achieve. We push ourselves to get to the next destination as soon as possible and if we are not on schedule, we would be worried and stressed out.

Is it worth the push and the stress? Was it worth to get to each destinations a few days early? maybe? Or maybe not. it’s better to take a little more time and find ways to enjoy what we are doing now and can be late a little for next destination. Like road trip, I feel like it is not all about each destinations but driving was part of the important journey and we take most of our time into this. The road trip made me think of this part.

2. Dreams and Reality


I dreamed about this cross country trip for a long time. i was thinking about I would feel totally free in beautiful nature and places and everything will be great.

When I actually did it, I saw and experience more than the abstract dream and images I had. Everything was real – every states, food, streets, building, landscape, atmosphere and people. and not everything was what I imagined like what a long driving would be like, and what things I can expect.

I felt like this also happens to us many times in life. Gap between dreams and reality. We feel like everything will be great if we have this, or that. But is this true? When you make the dream come true, would everything would be fine?

3. Different people and life


Coming from city life as a foreigner, it was interesting to see different lifestyles in America. Big houses, driving cars, surrounding nature, shops, and lifestyle in suburb/small towns. I feel like I’m looking at different part of life there. In order to get to restaurants, you need to get into a car and drives miles away. Well, it did feel nice to have some space but felt a little weird at first. Almost too quiet and less people. Where’s everyone in this town!

Every towns, people have different attitude too. I felt like southern part, people were very kind and more friendly. Overall, in this one country, looking at different people and lifestyle made me think again about what is america made of? where’s all the culture coming from? how the history has infused in the country and people’s mind in different states?

I don’t think there would be any right answer for the question ‘what is life?’ but the road trip made me think about the question again and see different America with wider views. I might want do cross country trip again in the future. 😉 (but definitely not in summer)